You like somebody, but you don’t know how to take it further. You love someone, but they treat you just like friends. Are you afraid enough to confess?
You don’t want to stay in friendzone anymore. A transition from just friend to someone special needs time and some simple efforts. Usually when you develop special feelings for someone, but he or she is unaware of that and you are stuck in a friendship that means much more to you makes your situation and relation quite complicated.
It is natural to get frustrated when you are friend-zoned for a long time and cannot initiate further, cannot convey your feelings.
Getting out of friend zone is not that difficult or impossible task. Many relationships start with friendship. Boys and girls grow from friends to lovers and then to life partners. But the question is how? Sometimes taking your friendship further is feared by loosing your special friend since you don’t know exactly what the other person feels about you. Some simple techniques or actions can help you get out of friend zone. Take your relationship further.
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How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone
1. Be less available
Let your friend know your real worth and miss you. Once you are available every time your value decreases since you become a common subject in your friend’s life. He or she would not be able to notice your special efforts and your likeness will be unintentionally ignored because they would take your actions ordinary and out of friendship.
When you will be away from them they shall realize your importance in their life. They will start missing you and value your existence even more. This would also help them notice the small actions you make out of love and not friendship.
2. Expand your social circle
If you stay around a single person the whole day they will not notice your absence or efforts. Try to interact more with others especially with those of the opposite gender creating a competition. This will create insecurity in the mind of your friend and he or she is likely to feel jealous of others around you.
This will enable them to ask for you rather than you moving around them. Thus, he or she will value your existence and accept the fact that they want you around them always. A tinge of jealousy and protectiveness would make them feel special for you. He or she will be more attracted to you and want you all for themselves.
3. Let them put their efforts
You should never be taking all the burden alone. In a process of fulfilling everything your friend wants and ignoring your expectations, you end up being a giver and unvalued, stuck in the friendzone for eternity. Let her put her efforts. The more mutual your relationship is more satisfying are the results.
You ought to give them a chance to give more into the relationship. Ask them for their help in studies or shopping or going somewhere. Let your friend also take some steps further because only you acting whole around will make you look like a desperate person and likely to distort your balance in friendship. Head for a mutually satisfying relation, this will make you more comfortable and it will be easier to confess your feelings towards your friend.
4. Compliment him/her often
Complimenting is the best gesture for expressing your feelings in the most positive and safest way. You should often compliment your friend in a way no friend will compliment them. Yes, compliment as if you are her boyfriend since a compliment can never be taken down and she would ultimately accept it. You should compliment her more often about her smile, perfume, dress, and eyes.
Compliment her in a unique way. Do not compliment her casually as friends do. Try to go near hear and compliment her a little romantically and in a low sensual voice. Your appreciation once would make her matter your opinion about her. She would love this sweet teasing and take it positively. You can express your feeling in the safest way possible like you can say “You are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, I would love to have a girl like you”. This way you can give her an idea that you are interested in her. The same applies to the boys.
5. Avoid talking about exes
Whenever you are talking to your friend, never talk about his or her ex or the current relationship. Talking about them, you prioritize them over yourself. The more you talk about other guys, you will make yourself unnoticed since you yourself are busy popularizing them. Moreover, talking about exes or past relationships can often lead to a disappointing conversation.
You should focus on your relationship with him or her. Talk about your friendship and bonding. Tell about how you feel for her or how has your life changed, since you started knowing them. Try to bring out the possibilities of you two together indirectly or jokingly. Discuss the perks of your relationship and the development of you two together. Talk about how you and your friend can work and be together. Get your friend into thinking about the possibilities and perks of your relationship with each other.
6. Be sure that you are out of friend zone
Once you have followed those methods start observing your friend. Observe the changes that took place in your friendship, focus on the development, and improve it. You should also notice your friend and get an idea of his or her perception of you. Check if her attitude towards you has changed. Get to know her thoughts about you and her being romantically involved.
Has she shown any interest in you? If yes, then it is the official confirmation that you are out of the friend zone. Try to improve your relation with her more, and get romantically involved with her by little flirting and teasing. You can also try to get close to her and check if she also wants the same. Once you are out of the friend zone you can take your relationship one step further.
7. Finally Confess
Your feelings towards him/ her are intact and you are finally out of the friend zone. Also, they have shown an interest in being romantically involved with you. So, what’s left? Be prepared to confess your feelings to him or her.
Prepare your lines for proposal, you can organize a romantic date or outing with her. Also, you can randomly propose her in your group of friends, any way you like. Bring a beautiful bouquet and a gift for him or her. When you feel that it is the right time to propose her. Don’t wait too long as it would again make you land in a friendzone or some other person pursuing them.
What to do if rejected?
It is not always that you succeed in your escape out of friendzone. Sometimes your friend might not be interested in you or may have someone else to pursue. Your way out of friendzone is impossible and you have no chance. Moreover, she/he rejects your proposal, and you are denied any romantic hopes or involvement, you should move on.
Staying on the strangling rope of hope can make you exhausted and irritated. You will just be stressing your time and mind in pursuit of some false hopes and one-sided desires. Therefore, you should stop trying. You have to give up, even if you don’t want to. Don’t be upset at the rejection just accept the reality. Make peace with the fact that you and your friend you love cannot be together.
Be strong and move on as soon as possible. Don’t feel dejected or inferior, there are many others out there who have a hidden affection towards you. Many wish to pursue you, who love you and desire the same. Try to be happy and confident. Surely, there is someone made for you, but you will meet him or her only when the time comes and when your stars desire.
We have enlisted all the ways and steps that could help you get out of the friendzone. But, you should know it also depends upon the choice of your friend and her perception about you. You should try your level best, make your genuine efforts, but don’t rely too long if you know there is no possibility. All the best for your life ahead. Just be positive and stay strong. Remember, someone is waiting for you at the edge of the door in their dream world, and you will surely get your love.